That one time I was on a date and was told I was not spiritual because I did not speak in tongues.
Today’s testimony is one that makes me chuckle. Shortly after rededicating my life to Christ back in early 2015, I went on my first date with a man of God that I was getting to know. I was so excited about our date because this would be my first date with a “true man of God,” or at least I thought. Every man in my past was either a lukewarm Christian like me, or an unbeliever. So you can imagine how nervous and anxious I was to get to know this man.
He picked me up and we headed to the city in his car. During the car ride, he asked me several questions about my personal life, and in particular my walk with Christ. I’ll never forget him asking me, “Are you a spiritual person?” I looked at him confusingly and answered “What do you mean?” He responded “Do you speak in tongues?” Embarrassingly, I answered “no” because at that time, I did not receive that gift of the Holy Spirit. The man of God proceeded to say “Well you’re not a spiritual person if you don’t speak in tongues.” And although a little perturbed by his response, I refrained from making a rebuttal because I really hadn’t any idea what it truly meant to be spiritual. So maybe he was right.
By the end of the night, I concluded that this man was “sent from God” to help me on my “spiritual journey” and to show me how awesome it would be to date “spiritual Christian men” instead of lukewarm Christians or unbelievers. Well…that all changed upon discovering he was engaged to be married, despite telling me he was single. Oh how spiritual of him to entertain me while on his way to getting married. LOL…
After receiving the gift of tongues from the Holy Spirit I decided to study this gift a bit more. I needed to know: Is your ability to speak in tongues the determinant of whether or not you are spiritual? I don’t exactly have the answer. I am neither a theologian nor a Bible expert. What I do know is that Jesus did say that signs would follow those that believe in Him:
Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature unto all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned. And these signs shall follow them that believe; in my name shall they cast out devils; they shall speak with new tongues. (Mark 16:15-17)
The bible also talks about the believers on the Day of Pentecost speaking in other tongues when the Holy Spirit fell upon them. That means they began to speak in languages that were NOT THEIR OWN. Imagine hearing Indians speaking Mandarin, and Germans speaking French. THIS is what happened on the Day of Pentecost. I want to be very careful and say this: There are different forms of tongues and everyone’s spiritual walk with Christ is different. And my ability to speak in tongues does not make me more spiritual than someone’s inability to speak in tongues. The scripture says that people will know us by our fruits:
Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? (Matthew 7:16)
So should I then argue that he is not spiritual or saved because he was engaged to be married but kissing me on our first date?
My sharing of this testimony is just to encourage you to STUDY to SHOW YOURSELF APPROVED (2 Timothy 2:15). Don’t let anyone but God dictate your spirituality or salvation. Speaking in tongues, is a GIFT from the Holy Spirit. If a gift , then wouldn’t that be something the Holy Spirit chooses to give? I know many spiritual people who have never spoken in tongues before. So I will conclude that no, your inability to speak in other or new tongues does not mean you aren’t spiritual. I think we should be more concerned with Baptism of the Holy Spirit then ability to speak in new or other tongues. If you argue the contrary, please comment below. I’d love to hear from you.