Rejection may come, yes. But accept it gracefully, while using discernment.
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In this life, you’re going to get rejected at least once. Rejected from opportunities, rejected by people and loved ones, rejected from society, the list goes on. Once you accept this fact, you may be able to handle rejection better. For someone like myself who has gotten rejected quite often, I can honestly share many accounts of how it turned around for my good.
To say that I am an expert in rejection can be a reach; but after jumping over the many hurdles of rejection, I’ve come to realize the best way to be at peace about the circumstance is to gain wisdom and to discern why you are being rejected. To know better, is to do better. Oftentimes, people are rejected because their current position in life does not allow for them to receive an opportunity. And sometimes we are rejected because we’re unqualified. Sometimes we are rejected from jobs because God knew the job would bring more harm than good. Sometimes loved ones reject us because we hurt them; but sometimes loved ones reject us because God knew it would be the only way to get us to avoid that toxic person.
When I was in college, I desperately wanted to be a member of this sorority. The things I did just to “prove” I was qualified for membership was pretty absurd. I sacrificed more than one semester, tirelessly trying to prove my worth to the members of the local chapter. I did questionable things; I participated in ridiculous mind games, I spent countless nights calling people and chasing people around campus; but I had nothing to show for it but a denial letter from their “National Headquarters” say I wouldn’t gain access into this prominent sorority. Heartbroken was an understatement. I felt inferior and inadequate. What made matters worse was that I watched other young women who started the process with me go ahead with membership. Some were even gained membership and didn’t even do half of what I did. But since they had connections and pull within the organization, they were granted an opportunity I wasn’t granted. Because I rarely give up on my dreams, I tried to join the following year, only to realize my denial was personal and had nothing to do with my qualifications or what headquarters thought. After all, my GPA was phenomenal, community service hours were lit, letters of recommendation- easy money. Whatever qualifications were needed, Christina had it!
It took years after graduating from college to realize that my fate regarding membership into the sorority had nothing to do with the chapter members and everything to do with what God had in store for me. You see, whether the chapter members liked me or not, whether I was over-qualified or under-qualified, there was a set plan in place regarding my destiny; and FORTUNATELY it did not include me being a member of the sorority. Now, this doesn’t take away from how illustrious and phenomenal this sorority is. It doesn’t take away from how great the chapter members are. Neither does it take away from those members who were completely biased towards me. What matters is that I gained revelation about my rejection and I am able to be completely at peace about it.
Sometimes we are rejected because of our lack of maturity at a present time. I am always reminded of the book of Acts in the Bible when Paul and Barnabas set out to go visit their family and friends in a few cities. Paul suggested they should go without Mark, implying that he was a coward for deserting them in the past. Barnabas disagreed, which resulted in the separation of Paul and Barnabas. Paul continues with Silas one way and Barnabas continues with the rejected Mark another way. Some time later on, however, the same Paul who once rejected Mark, requested for him stating “Get Mark and bring him with you, because he is helpful to me in my ministry” (2 Timothy 4:11). This is a clear example of how rejection can turn into promotion. It isn’t always that we are rejected because others cannot see our potential. Sometimes, we are simply not needed and we have to allow ourselves to grow and mature to a place where instead of us requesting acceptance or promotion, people simply just send for us. Be encouraged. Don’t take offense when you are rejected. Just ask God to reveal the reason for your rejections and press forward. And when the day comes that you are sent for, don’t be petty and hold on to that offense of your prior rejection. Remember your fate is not in the hands of a man or a position. Let us walk gracefully after being rejected, keeping our heads up high onto heaven !