Let me help you, help yourself 🙂
Wedding Season has officially commenced and it seems like everywhere you turn, someone is either down on one knee or walking down the aisle. It’s currently a season of love; and unless you’re a deliberate hater, it’s pretty hard not to feel all warm and tingly inside for those celebrating around you. As a result of these feelings, you may be compelled to ask questions that- unbeknownst to you- might frustrate a recently engaged couple. For this reason, I compiled a short list of questions to avoid and you can thank me in the comments 🙂
1. “Am I invited to the wedding?”
This question is always interesting if the couple hasn’t announced a wedding to begin with. Many couples choose to do smaller ceremonies, elopements, and even court house options. Some couples cannot afford to have a wedding; so asking this question makes it uncomfortable for them to answer. But if you’re compelled to ask whether or not you’re invited to their wedding, chances are you’re not. And this leads the couple to either responding untruthfully or hurting your feelings.
2. “When are you getting married?”
I remember someone asking me this question the very same day my fiance proposed. At that moment, I was still on Cloud 9, so it didn’t bother me much to respond, “we have no idea!” But as days passed by, and the question become more and more frequent, I realized how ridiculous it was to ask such a question. Chances are, a couple that is recently engaged probably has no idea when they’ll get married.It’s simply best to wait for the ‘save-the-date ‘ instead of asking this question.
3. “How’s Wedding Planning?”
I’m pretty sure I answer this question at least once a day. And every time that I do, I squeal inside as it reminds me of all of the expensive tasks that need to be completed for the wedding. While the question in itself might be innocent, can you imagine how many other friends and family members want to know the answer to this same question? I suggest offering to help out with any wedding planning instead of asking how it’s going. And if you’re not available to help with the planning process, you probably shouldn’t ask how the process is going anyway.
4. “Are you excited about getting married?”
…no I’m not. I’m devastated.
Okay, yes… sure the question is sincere and valid. But honestly speaking, even if I’m not excited about getting married, that isn’t information I’d disclose to you. Please stop asking this question.
5.” Where are you going for your honeymoon?”
This question can be insensitive to the couple who isn’t going on a honeymoon because of the costs associated. They need not be reminded of this reality every time someone asks about their honeymoon. And for those couples who do plan to go on a honeymoon, they probably haven’t finalized the itinerary after one week of their engagement…
…I mean do they even have a wedding venue yet? Baby steps people! Baby steps!
In the end, recently engaged couples that are planning a wedding can be extremely overwhelmed so please try not to add to their overwhelming experience with your plethora of insensitive questions.
Have a blessed day x